Hi there! :)
This is Candie! I'm the organizer of My 20 First Dates. I would like to give you an update on the event, Light the Night Speed Dating event
for the Evangelical Christians.
I realize this is a really specific niche that we're trying to tap into, and it is quite difficult to get 20 pairs of single Evangelical Christians together for an event. I've been told a few times that the Christians have not been giving priority to meeting new people and dating. This is the reason why I've decided to dedicate an event just for this community.
I, personally, am not a Christian, but have a lot of friends who share your faith. I realized i need to understand more the market to be able to disseminate the information more effectively. As the event organizer, i want to do this right; and so i feel that it is only right that I postpone this event to make sure that the quality of this event would be at par with the other events that I have ever organized.
I would like to thank everyone's support and patience, but please DO CONTINUE to spread the word about the event. This event IS going to push thru if its the last thing I do. haha.
Thanks again,
Candie
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Speed Dating Could be the Solution!
*Written by Clarissa E. for My 20 First Dates
Our churches are filled with single people who are on fire for the Lord, who go out of their way to serve and minister to others. But more and more, single evangelical Christians are confused about what their attitude should be as they wait to reach the next phase in life. Is kissing dating goodbye really their only option?
Boundless.org, a webzine geared towards evangelical Christians quotes from Shmuley Boteach’s book Why Can't I Fall in Love?
I frequently hear people telling their friends, 'The reason you don't fall in love is that you want love too badly.... People can smell the need on you. Love won't find you until you stop looking for it.
Sound familiar? Looking for love has become something to be embarrassed about. You don't hear people talking about unemployment this way: "I used to go to job interviews, looking to get hired by law firms. I found it absolutely humiliating, having to cozy up to the partners to get them to give me a job. So I decided I will never go for an interview again. I'll just live on the streets, with no money and no food. If some guy comes and offers me a job, I'll take it, but I will never search for it again."
(http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001786.cfm)
For evangelical Christians who want to be intentional about dating and would like to go beyond their immediate social circles, speed dating may be the solution.
Speed dating has its roots in the Jewish community. Rabbi Yaacov Deyo conceived this system as a way to help Jewish singles meet people who share their faith. Speed dating is a fast, fun and safe way to meet and date lots of single professionals in one night. Men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of 20 First Dates, lasting 5 minutes each.
Events company My 20 First Dates is at the forefront of niche speed dating in the country, having organized successful events for the Chinoy community. Now the time has come for Filipino Christians from Bible-based churches who are interested in meeting fellow Christian singles and seeing where it leads.
LIGHT THE NIGHT - A Christian Speed Dating Event
for ladies 25 and above, and gentlemen 28 and above
ticket price is P1,000 per person
includes dinner, drinks and 20 dates
May 20, 2011, Friday 7pm La Regalade French Bistro
820 Arnaiz St. Makati City
Please spread the word about this event geared specifically for Christian singles. Check out www.my20firstdates.com for more information. Registration prior to the event via My 20 First Date’s official website is necessary. Slots are running out fast!
Our churches are filled with single people who are on fire for the Lord, who go out of their way to serve and minister to others. But more and more, single evangelical Christians are confused about what their attitude should be as they wait to reach the next phase in life. Is kissing dating goodbye really their only option?
Boundless.org, a webzine geared towards evangelical Christians quotes from Shmuley Boteach’s book Why Can't I Fall in Love?
I frequently hear people telling their friends, 'The reason you don't fall in love is that you want love too badly.... People can smell the need on you. Love won't find you until you stop looking for it.
Sound familiar? Looking for love has become something to be embarrassed about. You don't hear people talking about unemployment this way: "I used to go to job interviews, looking to get hired by law firms. I found it absolutely humiliating, having to cozy up to the partners to get them to give me a job. So I decided I will never go for an interview again. I'll just live on the streets, with no money and no food. If some guy comes and offers me a job, I'll take it, but I will never search for it again."
(http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001786.cfm)
For evangelical Christians who want to be intentional about dating and would like to go beyond their immediate social circles, speed dating may be the solution.
Speed dating has its roots in the Jewish community. Rabbi Yaacov Deyo conceived this system as a way to help Jewish singles meet people who share their faith. Speed dating is a fast, fun and safe way to meet and date lots of single professionals in one night. Men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of 20 First Dates, lasting 5 minutes each.
Events company My 20 First Dates is at the forefront of niche speed dating in the country, having organized successful events for the Chinoy community. Now the time has come for Filipino Christians from Bible-based churches who are interested in meeting fellow Christian singles and seeing where it leads.
LIGHT THE NIGHT - A Christian Speed Dating Event
for ladies 25 and above, and gentlemen 28 and above
ticket price is P1,000 per person
includes dinner, drinks and 20 dates
May 20, 2011, Friday 7pm La Regalade French Bistro
820 Arnaiz St. Makati City
Please spread the word about this event geared specifically for Christian singles. Check out www.my20firstdates.com for more information. Registration prior to the event via My 20 First Date’s official website is necessary. Slots are running out fast!
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
In search for a perfect place
One of the exciting parts of planning a speed dating event is looking for a new restaurant! There are a lot of considerations when it comes to choosing the perfect restaurant for the event; there’s
#1 the budget: if the price is right?
#2 the space: can the place hold 50 people comfortably without having to walk sideways?
#3 the place: is the place classy? Are the chairs comfy? Is the location convenient for the target market?
#4 the owners: are the owners nice? Do you get to talk to the owners directly? Or least the person coordinating with you is cooperative? Efficient?
#5 the food: does it taste good? Does the chicken taste like cardboard? You know stuff like that.
All of these are crucial and are not ranked in order of importance.
I am constantly surprised how much in demand speed dating is in the Metro. Although I almost always have a “breakdown” when it comes to crunch time because people procrastinate with their registrations and some needs a bit of a push; but then again, it almost always turns out perfect. :)
My last event was held in Bistro Napa located in Il Terrazzo in Tomas Morato. As I’ve mentioned before in the location, since my target market in the event was Filipino-Chinese, Timog area was definitely the place to be.
I came across the blog written by Alex A., the Picky Pescetarian, and her good review about it, so I asked her if she knew the owners, so she gave me their number.
I found out that the owners of Bistro Napa are the same owners of Aresi, which was my favourite date place! It’s classy, comfy, cozy and yet not so expensive. They still also have the same chef which means, they would have the same food. And when you look at the interior, it’s very nice. The lights aren’t too bright, aren’t too dark either. There were enough space for 50 people plus the owners were very welcoming with the idea of holding my speed dating event there. Negotiations were very fast; both waiters and owners were very accommodating and nice during the event.
If you come across a good restaurant which you think is a great place for us to hold a speed dating event, or maybe you own a restaurant which you want us to check out, please do not hesitate to email us! :)
#1 the budget: if the price is right?
#2 the space: can the place hold 50 people comfortably without having to walk sideways?
#3 the place: is the place classy? Are the chairs comfy? Is the location convenient for the target market?
#4 the owners: are the owners nice? Do you get to talk to the owners directly? Or least the person coordinating with you is cooperative? Efficient?
#5 the food: does it taste good? Does the chicken taste like cardboard? You know stuff like that.
All of these are crucial and are not ranked in order of importance.
I am constantly surprised how much in demand speed dating is in the Metro. Although I almost always have a “breakdown” when it comes to crunch time because people procrastinate with their registrations and some needs a bit of a push; but then again, it almost always turns out perfect. :)
My last event was held in Bistro Napa located in Il Terrazzo in Tomas Morato. As I’ve mentioned before in the location, since my target market in the event was Filipino-Chinese, Timog area was definitely the place to be.
I came across the blog written by Alex A., the Picky Pescetarian, and her good review about it, so I asked her if she knew the owners, so she gave me their number.
I found out that the owners of Bistro Napa are the same owners of Aresi, which was my favourite date place! It’s classy, comfy, cozy and yet not so expensive. They still also have the same chef which means, they would have the same food. And when you look at the interior, it’s very nice. The lights aren’t too bright, aren’t too dark either. There were enough space for 50 people plus the owners were very welcoming with the idea of holding my speed dating event there. Negotiations were very fast; both waiters and owners were very accommodating and nice during the event.
If you come across a good restaurant which you think is a great place for us to hold a speed dating event, or maybe you own a restaurant which you want us to check out, please do not hesitate to email us! :)
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Speed Dating: A "Twisted" Event
SPEED DATING : A 'TWISTED' EVENT(Part One)
Around late January, i realized that wretched, over-commercialized V-Day was fast coming up, and my potential V-date had turned out to be, well, lacking in potential, after all.So, with no viable date in the far, far horizon, yours truly decided to do the next best thing: sign up for this "Early Valentine" Speed Dating event targeted to the Filipino-Chinese community.
Days before the event, i was informed there would be a "twist" with this speed dating event. But despite badgering the vivacious organizer Candie, she steadfastly refused to spill the beans.
***The group speeddating was a collaboration between me (Candie) and Jeanette Tan who invited people to the event as well. The group speeddating idea came about when Jeanette said the people she invited did not want to have speeddating, and just a group date. But I also had a bunch of people who were invited by me and expected to be in a speeddating event. therefore came up with the idea of group speed dating. *** ~ Candie
Speed dating normally works this way: The guys and gals sit facing each other on individual tables, and talk to each other one-on-one for an allotted number of minutes (commonly 3 or 4 minutes). Then, once a buzzer or bell signifies the end of this allotted time, the guys move over to the next table where the next girl awaits, and the process starts all over again.
Each guy and gal has a checklist in their hand, wherein they "check" those people whom they liked well enough to want to see again. So, if Guy A checks Gal Z, and she also checks him, then we have a "match".A day or two after the event, the organizers inform each participant by email how many matches they have, along with the mobile phone numbers of the said members of the opposite sex.
On the night itself, the turnout was overwhelming. There were 31 pairs signed up (whoa!). So, i guess there were that many unattached-yet-on-the-prowl people like me! Haha :D Candie went onstage, and announced that the game. . . err, event was about to begin. Further, she revealed that the twist was that this would be a "group" speed dating, instead of the normal one-on-one set-up.This was how it would work: There were a total of 6 tables, and each table would have more or less 5 guys and 5 gals. They would be given 15 minutes to mingle, chat, make jokes, stare into space, etc. before the guys move on to the next table, and so on.
To break the ice (factoid: Fil-Chis, or "Tsinoys", are amongst the coldest bunch of people on earth), there would be a game question for each round, which the speed dating participants would answer. This, hopefully, would get everyone involved, and start sharing juicy tidbits about themselves.Candie explained the rationale for the shift from one-on-one to group: Based on their previous events, participants would get hoarse from all that talking by the midpoint (and i suspect, tired about being asked and answering the same questions regarding their age, job, school, income, etc.), and sort of not enjoying themselves anymore from then on. Clearly, a case of diminishing marginal returns at work.
Also, i thought the group format was an ingenious way for the organizer to deal with last-minute no-shows/flakers, as it eliminated the need to have the exact same number of guys and gals.Nevertheless, i had serious reservations about this so-called "twist", in all honesty. Probably because i'm anti-social, taciturn and don't like big groups. Besides, under the usual one-on-one set-up, i have the entire 4 minutes to monopolize the girl's attention, and hopefully charm the pants off her. [IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This is a figure of speech only; DO NOT take it literally, okay?]
Whereas under the new group set-up, i have to find a way to stand out from the other 4 guys, who are all in their own way trying a find a way to stand out and impress the girls, too! Likely result: total chaos.While i (secretly) wished that the other 4 guys at the table were all pasty-faced schmucks, so that i come across as relatively "better", i could not afford to take things to chance. After all, one has to take one's fate into one's own hands, right? You know, "Carpe Diem!" or whatever.
Without further ado, we guys were assigned our respective tables, and the game was afoot!Amongst the questions used as starting points were:
a) Describe yourself using words which start with each letter of your first name. [For example, Candie could describe herself as "Catty, alluring, neurotic, delicate, ingenious and elegant"]
b) "If you were marooned on a desert island, who are the 3 people (whether dead or alive, real or imaginary, etc.) whom you would bring along, and why?"
c) State 3 things about yourself, 2 of which are factual and 1 being a lie. Then the members of the opposite sex at your table will guess which one is the lie, and you tell them if they had guess correctly or not.In fairness to Candie (and contrary to my earlier reservations), this new group speed dating format worked quite well, especially during the later stages.
At first, people were sort of shy, and deferred to others to start the ball rolling. But once warmed up, most everyone was willing to share interesting tidbits about themselves. In particular, making wild guesses regarding which "fact" was in fact a lie proved to be hilarious. Not only did this game bring out interesting revelations from each of us, it brought forth lots of good-natured 'roasting' and bantering and hooting when each person had to reveal which of his/her statements was the lie, and why exactly so.
Of course, the evening was not complete without some low points, like the girls from the wretched Table no. [x]. I do not intend to sound mean, but really, they were regrettably a trifle deficient in the personality department.For one, they kept on pointing to the others to get the discussion started, much like guests at a Chinese dinner lauriat, who move the lazy Susan back and forth the table, urging each other to be the one to dig into the food first.
Then, when finally pressed to say something substantial, they hemmed and hawwed and frowned in agonizingly deep thought, as time ticked away.One of them proferred the oh-so-fascinating tidbit that she "didn't like cheese". Equally uninspiring was another one who professed her love for travelling. When i inquired what her favorite travel destination was, or what had been her most enjoyable trip so far, she clammed up and looked at me uncomprehendingly, as though i asked her whether cold nuclear fusion was the answer to global warming.Tsk, tsk.
Due to the late hour, Candie was not able to tabulate the results, and instead, promised to email everyone their respective "matches" shortly.So the waiting game begins.
(For more details on the speed dating event, please check out http://www.my20firstdates.com/)
Posted by the Grumpy Urban Slacker as his first hand experience for My 20 First Dates
Around late January, i realized that wretched, over-commercialized V-Day was fast coming up, and my potential V-date had turned out to be, well, lacking in potential, after all.So, with no viable date in the far, far horizon, yours truly decided to do the next best thing: sign up for this "Early Valentine" Speed Dating event targeted to the Filipino-Chinese community.
Days before the event, i was informed there would be a "twist" with this speed dating event. But despite badgering the vivacious organizer Candie, she steadfastly refused to spill the beans.
***The group speeddating was a collaboration between me (Candie) and Jeanette Tan who invited people to the event as well. The group speeddating idea came about when Jeanette said the people she invited did not want to have speeddating, and just a group date. But I also had a bunch of people who were invited by me and expected to be in a speeddating event. therefore came up with the idea of group speed dating. *** ~ Candie
Speed dating normally works this way: The guys and gals sit facing each other on individual tables, and talk to each other one-on-one for an allotted number of minutes (commonly 3 or 4 minutes). Then, once a buzzer or bell signifies the end of this allotted time, the guys move over to the next table where the next girl awaits, and the process starts all over again.
Each guy and gal has a checklist in their hand, wherein they "check" those people whom they liked well enough to want to see again. So, if Guy A checks Gal Z, and she also checks him, then we have a "match".A day or two after the event, the organizers inform each participant by email how many matches they have, along with the mobile phone numbers of the said members of the opposite sex.
On the night itself, the turnout was overwhelming. There were 31 pairs signed up (whoa!). So, i guess there were that many unattached-yet-on-the-prowl people like me! Haha :D Candie went onstage, and announced that the game. . . err, event was about to begin. Further, she revealed that the twist was that this would be a "group" speed dating, instead of the normal one-on-one set-up.This was how it would work: There were a total of 6 tables, and each table would have more or less 5 guys and 5 gals. They would be given 15 minutes to mingle, chat, make jokes, stare into space, etc. before the guys move on to the next table, and so on.
To break the ice (factoid: Fil-Chis, or "Tsinoys", are amongst the coldest bunch of people on earth), there would be a game question for each round, which the speed dating participants would answer. This, hopefully, would get everyone involved, and start sharing juicy tidbits about themselves.Candie explained the rationale for the shift from one-on-one to group: Based on their previous events, participants would get hoarse from all that talking by the midpoint (and i suspect, tired about being asked and answering the same questions regarding their age, job, school, income, etc.), and sort of not enjoying themselves anymore from then on. Clearly, a case of diminishing marginal returns at work.
Also, i thought the group format was an ingenious way for the organizer to deal with last-minute no-shows/flakers, as it eliminated the need to have the exact same number of guys and gals.Nevertheless, i had serious reservations about this so-called "twist", in all honesty. Probably because i'm anti-social, taciturn and don't like big groups. Besides, under the usual one-on-one set-up, i have the entire 4 minutes to monopolize the girl's attention, and hopefully charm the pants off her. [IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This is a figure of speech only; DO NOT take it literally, okay?]
Whereas under the new group set-up, i have to find a way to stand out from the other 4 guys, who are all in their own way trying a find a way to stand out and impress the girls, too! Likely result: total chaos.While i (secretly) wished that the other 4 guys at the table were all pasty-faced schmucks, so that i come across as relatively "better", i could not afford to take things to chance. After all, one has to take one's fate into one's own hands, right? You know, "Carpe Diem!" or whatever.
Without further ado, we guys were assigned our respective tables, and the game was afoot!Amongst the questions used as starting points were:
a) Describe yourself using words which start with each letter of your first name. [For example, Candie could describe herself as "Catty, alluring, neurotic, delicate, ingenious and elegant"]
b) "If you were marooned on a desert island, who are the 3 people (whether dead or alive, real or imaginary, etc.) whom you would bring along, and why?"
c) State 3 things about yourself, 2 of which are factual and 1 being a lie. Then the members of the opposite sex at your table will guess which one is the lie, and you tell them if they had guess correctly or not.In fairness to Candie (and contrary to my earlier reservations), this new group speed dating format worked quite well, especially during the later stages.
At first, people were sort of shy, and deferred to others to start the ball rolling. But once warmed up, most everyone was willing to share interesting tidbits about themselves. In particular, making wild guesses regarding which "fact" was in fact a lie proved to be hilarious. Not only did this game bring out interesting revelations from each of us, it brought forth lots of good-natured 'roasting' and bantering and hooting when each person had to reveal which of his/her statements was the lie, and why exactly so.
Of course, the evening was not complete without some low points, like the girls from the wretched Table no. [x]. I do not intend to sound mean, but really, they were regrettably a trifle deficient in the personality department.For one, they kept on pointing to the others to get the discussion started, much like guests at a Chinese dinner lauriat, who move the lazy Susan back and forth the table, urging each other to be the one to dig into the food first.
Then, when finally pressed to say something substantial, they hemmed and hawwed and frowned in agonizingly deep thought, as time ticked away.One of them proferred the oh-so-fascinating tidbit that she "didn't like cheese". Equally uninspiring was another one who professed her love for travelling. When i inquired what her favorite travel destination was, or what had been her most enjoyable trip so far, she clammed up and looked at me uncomprehendingly, as though i asked her whether cold nuclear fusion was the answer to global warming.Tsk, tsk.
Due to the late hour, Candie was not able to tabulate the results, and instead, promised to email everyone their respective "matches" shortly.So the waiting game begins.
(For more details on the speed dating event, please check out http://www.my20firstdates.com/)
Posted by the Grumpy Urban Slacker as his first hand experience for My 20 First Dates
Friday, November 21, 2008
My best friend's wedding
In 21 years, I’ve seen her in just her panties, I’ve seen her cry, laugh, triumph and fail; I have met her family and she has mine. We’ve become a household name in each other’s household. We were not the stereotypical best friends that do sleepovers or put make up on each other, have pillow fights, or go shopping together. We mostly spoke over the phone, and occasionally met up for important things.
I am at the stage of my life where my social calendar is filled up by attending weddings, bridal showers and engagement parties; despite all of this, the thought of my best friend getting married just wouldn’t sink in. It’s like, it can’t be! We’re same age! We grew up together! Not that any of my reasoning matters or contributes on the decision making process of getting married, but it’s just shocking! She’s the first one to be wed amongst those who are close to me.
I remember when we were probably 13 or at a silly age when we would talk about our weddings, we vowed to be each other’s bridesmaid. Doesn’t matter who gets married first, if it has to be done, one of us will be Mrs. Bridesmaid. Haha. I guess I’d be the one to have a Mrs. Bridesmaid in my wedding.
As I just had my manicure and pedicure, hand spa and foot spa to prepare for the wedding, got my gown and my shoes, got my appointment with the hairdresser it seems like I’ve got every base covered. Yes, seems. I don’t have a date. Ironically, I organize events for people to date. I’ve scanned thru my phonebook, my YM list, my Facebook, zilch; although I did ask someone, who turned out to be busy on Sunday. So now, I think I may just embark on the wedding alone.
I don’t really mind going alone, since I’d prolly be hanging out with some schoolmates there, but it would just be… more fun if I were to go with someone, being all dressed up and everything, it’d feel like prom again. Haha my gawd. Oh I can go on with my prom night, but it’s gonna be a whole new story and it’s just not related. Haha
I hope that this Sunday goes well, I don’t trip, Thea gets married to Hans, I’d look good on my make up, and I’d enjoy the night without a plus 1. I’d be taking lotsa photos during the wedding and post them up soon!
Friday, September 26, 2008
Unreciprocated Love
You sometimes don’t know when love would hit you. This could be the best thing that’s ever happened or it could also be the worst thing. Why do I say this?
In this business of matchmaking, we bring together random people to become friends, business partners, and if they’re lucky, maybe lovers. This was the case for a close friend of mine who I asked to join. She came to the event with no expectations. She just came to support me plus, she was single. Hehe Instead of finding love, I think it was more like love that found her.
We think of Love in such positive way, that it rarely occurs to us how appalling it could also be.
She caught an “admirer”. She met a guy who has fallen COMPLETELY and IMMENSELY in love with her from the moment that they’ve met. Nothing would have made us thought that he could be like this. I guess the guy paid good money to have found the person who he feels would complete him; although we do not guarantee they would reciprocate. Lol.
This guy has texted her love quotes, to self-authored love quotes, to love messages. He has waited for her in front of their building (lucky for him, bad luck for her, they live in the same building). He has taken up swimming every Sunday now (since she goes swimming on Sundays); persistently texts her after I have “interfered” as the organizer of the speed dating; and the most recent one, has written her a 2-part love emails that were written with so much passion...that it was mind blowing.
She has asked her to be just a friend, since he knew that she was not at all interested to even keep in contact with him; asked her to stay around, so that he would have the will to go on, to look for her “replacement”; which he later said that he doubt that he’d find anyway. He has shamelessly asked her to treat her like a brother, a classmate (that you ignore! My gawd), or just be a person who would reply to his texts and emails.
My reactions have gone from WTF s to OMGs.
Couldn’t help but feel like that I was sort of at fault haha. But then I started to put myself in his shoes, tried understanding where he’s coming from, and I’ve read his love email to her again, and I could only conclude that a person who could humiliate himself like that is exactly what a person who is TRULY in love would do. He would risk it all. He has lost his mind. He is in love. He’s just like Tom Cruise in Oprah talking about Katie Holmes sans Tom’s hotness haha.
Although saying this, I am not encouraging my friend to go out with him, haha, dear God NO! I am just saying that it’s kind of distressing to see, not just him, but anybody, to be like this.
Well, I just wish for him to find someone that he would love as much as he does my friend, and who would also love him back. But then again, is this not what we all want?
In this business of matchmaking, we bring together random people to become friends, business partners, and if they’re lucky, maybe lovers. This was the case for a close friend of mine who I asked to join. She came to the event with no expectations. She just came to support me plus, she was single. Hehe Instead of finding love, I think it was more like love that found her.
We think of Love in such positive way, that it rarely occurs to us how appalling it could also be.
She caught an “admirer”. She met a guy who has fallen COMPLETELY and IMMENSELY in love with her from the moment that they’ve met. Nothing would have made us thought that he could be like this. I guess the guy paid good money to have found the person who he feels would complete him; although we do not guarantee they would reciprocate. Lol.
This guy has texted her love quotes, to self-authored love quotes, to love messages. He has waited for her in front of their building (lucky for him, bad luck for her, they live in the same building). He has taken up swimming every Sunday now (since she goes swimming on Sundays); persistently texts her after I have “interfered” as the organizer of the speed dating; and the most recent one, has written her a 2-part love emails that were written with so much passion...that it was mind blowing.
She has asked her to be just a friend, since he knew that she was not at all interested to even keep in contact with him; asked her to stay around, so that he would have the will to go on, to look for her “replacement”; which he later said that he doubt that he’d find anyway. He has shamelessly asked her to treat her like a brother, a classmate (that you ignore! My gawd), or just be a person who would reply to his texts and emails.
My reactions have gone from WTF s to OMGs.
Couldn’t help but feel like that I was sort of at fault haha. But then I started to put myself in his shoes, tried understanding where he’s coming from, and I’ve read his love email to her again, and I could only conclude that a person who could humiliate himself like that is exactly what a person who is TRULY in love would do. He would risk it all. He has lost his mind. He is in love. He’s just like Tom Cruise in Oprah talking about Katie Holmes sans Tom’s hotness haha.Although saying this, I am not encouraging my friend to go out with him, haha, dear God NO! I am just saying that it’s kind of distressing to see, not just him, but anybody, to be like this.
Well, I just wish for him to find someone that he would love as much as he does my friend, and who would also love him back. But then again, is this not what we all want?
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Matchmaking for real
It was a Monday night, I was bound for Banawe to go boxing at Sarreal when suddenly the lazy wind blew in my direction, it was also kind of a sad day that time, so I called on a friend to hang out instead. I have been texting with Ronnie for such a long time wanting to meet and catch up so I took the opportunity and went directly to his house and fetched him. It was actually more like an ambush rather than an invitation, haha.
So Ronnie and I headed to Starbucks to just hang out and chat, he started telling me about his work and everything else that comes into mind. Ronnie is one of those people that I just click with, and seem to have tons of things to talk about, conjuring conversations out of thin air.
As we were hanging out, I saw a friend of mine from kindergarten, Cherry. We said our hi's and hello's as she went back to her table. She walked passed our table again and I started a conversation with her. Apprarently, she was at Starbucks with her dad (w/ business partners), talking about things that would not keep her in her seat. So I asked her to sit at our table until her dad's done with his meeting, and so she did.
I have not talked to Cherry in probaby 10 years, we've always just acknowledged each other but never really gotten to talk or become real friends. I was so surprised to find out that we have so much in common, and that we share alot of same opinions. Talking to her for the first time was like talking to a long lost friend.
Cherry-Ronnie-Ronnie-Cherry. That was it. That was my purpose that night, why the lazy wind blew into my direction. It was mere Destiny as i believe, why Cherry's dad decided to tag her along to a really boring business meeting; why Ronnie was so available that night, i don't know.
There is a saying in Chinese about Destiny that I really love, "With Destiny, you'll meet inspite of being a thousand miles apart; without Destiny, you may be face-to-face but you'll never get to know each other."
There it is. Although I am not a firm believer of Love-at-First-Sight, 'cuz it's never happened to me, but I think thats what happened to Ronnie. When the night ended, he asked me for her number and they just started texting each other.
I am also a non-believer of long courtships, I believe in the simplicity of "me Tarzan, you Jane" sort of thing. Yes, the flirting in betweeen IS fun (and may just be the funnest part), but if you're both looking for a serious relationship, I think, there is no sense in waiting.
After all these events, Elaine and I have organized, we've never gotten to know the feeling of being a matchmaker. Now I know, and it is one of the amazing things that I've gotten to see; how I was used by a tool by LOVE haha (i'm not cynnical, see?) to make 2 strangers meet, who would both otherwise walk their own direction in life and not know each other; OR I might just be giving myself too much credit, that they'd probably meet each other one way or another haha. But I'm glad I was part of it.
So Ronnie and I headed to Starbucks to just hang out and chat, he started telling me about his work and everything else that comes into mind. Ronnie is one of those people that I just click with, and seem to have tons of things to talk about, conjuring conversations out of thin air.
As we were hanging out, I saw a friend of mine from kindergarten, Cherry. We said our hi's and hello's as she went back to her table. She walked passed our table again and I started a conversation with her. Apprarently, she was at Starbucks with her dad (w/ business partners), talking about things that would not keep her in her seat. So I asked her to sit at our table until her dad's done with his meeting, and so she did.
I have not talked to Cherry in probaby 10 years, we've always just acknowledged each other but never really gotten to talk or become real friends. I was so surprised to find out that we have so much in common, and that we share alot of same opinions. Talking to her for the first time was like talking to a long lost friend.
Cherry-Ronnie-Ronnie-Cherry. That was it. That was my purpose that night, why the lazy wind blew into my direction. It was mere Destiny as i believe, why Cherry's dad decided to tag her along to a really boring business meeting; why Ronnie was so available that night, i don't know.There is a saying in Chinese about Destiny that I really love, "With Destiny, you'll meet inspite of being a thousand miles apart; without Destiny, you may be face-to-face but you'll never get to know each other."
There it is. Although I am not a firm believer of Love-at-First-Sight, 'cuz it's never happened to me, but I think thats what happened to Ronnie. When the night ended, he asked me for her number and they just started texting each other.
I am also a non-believer of long courtships, I believe in the simplicity of "me Tarzan, you Jane" sort of thing. Yes, the flirting in betweeen IS fun (and may just be the funnest part), but if you're both looking for a serious relationship, I think, there is no sense in waiting.
After all these events, Elaine and I have organized, we've never gotten to know the feeling of being a matchmaker. Now I know, and it is one of the amazing things that I've gotten to see; how I was used by a tool by LOVE haha (i'm not cynnical, see?) to make 2 strangers meet, who would both otherwise walk their own direction in life and not know each other; OR I might just be giving myself too much credit, that they'd probably meet each other one way or another haha. But I'm glad I was part of it.
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